Business, Love and Lust; A Confidential Letter To My Boys On Women.

There’s a difference between growing old and growing up. One is mandatory and the other is optional. By the nature of my work, I meet people every day. I know this because I’ve seen 20 years old men and 40 years old boys. The male gender gets away with a lot of things, especially when we are successful. A female client yesterday told me that men will always be men, and I asked her what she meant and she said, they’d always cheat, what can we do?

A player is a male version of a whore but the society doesn’t mind. From Julius Caesar to Clinton to David  and King Solomon in the old testament, it seems like the society really doesn’t mind. If a woman does same, we bring the roof down. I’m not trying to be sexist, but no matter what the feminists say,  I sincerely think that we live in a man’s world. It’s a man’s world I said, not a boy’s. Don’t be a boy, or a male, be a man. The difference between these is on a few things.

We’re either boys or men, we can’t be both. Boys are known to chase girls, only a few grow up to be men. These are the ones who date ladies and then marry and become faithful to that woman. On the other hand, women date boys and then marry men. A boy looks for a girl to sleep with but a man looks for a woman worth waking up to. I’m not writing this to please the ladies, it’s for the love of my mother, my sisters, that special woman, my unknown future wife, the mother of my unborn daughter, someday.

I watched my brother in law become a better man from the day his first daughter was born. We used to hang out together a lot before then, especially when he was still dating my sister. Then I asked him why he suddenly has grabbed chill. And he said, I just want to be a good picture for my daughters. I want to be the kind of man I want my daughters to bring home, one day. He turned around and asked me, if you had a daughter Eizu, would you pray that your daughter should walk into the house someday with a husband that is exactly like you? That’s deep.

Here’s #ImprovementTuesday, dedicated to where I want to be. Here’s saying thank you to every special woman on our Hbc platform. I drove home late yesterday with my colleagues playing back the memories of a meeting we had earlier on, in the evening with two  successful single ladies in their late 30s,  they spoke from an intense place of memory, they told us a story and it hit me, “a lady can either be your best friend,  enemy, wife or nightmare, depending on how you treat her. As business men, you need peace of mind to think and grow. There’s nothing more enjoyable than someone who supports you, has your back and still can play Winnie the Pooh, when the game becomes charades.

An elderly man once said to me, every time you mistreat a woman, you give up your right to be treated like a man. Men are from mars, women are from venus. That’s a book, you should read it. He said to me that every woman is a damsel seeking a knight in shiny armour who will love her, shower her with care, validation and re-assurance. Women love to have their feelings recognised. They naturally love to cooperate and they love assistance and value. I’m writing this for the men and dedicating it to  my dearest female friends, to my sisters, to my mother, to my aunties, to whomever my wife will be, the mother of the unborn queen, my daughter.

It’s #ImprovementTuesday on all our HBC Platforms, and I’m asking that we treat women better.  To every man you see who doesn’t act well put together outside, there’s a lady in his home that he has no respect for.  I once heard former governor, Donald Duke say that “ When I See Public Office Holders Misbehaving, Probably, They Do Not Have a Good Wife or a Good Marriage”. I concur.

Show more love and put togetherness. If for any reason, she’s not the only person, make her feel like she is. I don’t know how true, but a lady told me that’s what they actually want most.  Seduction is real; it is more striking than power. I moved from reading 48 Laws of Power to the Laws of Seduction both by the same author, Robert Greene. And in it, I realised that Seduction is mind game which works with the help of our imaginations. It takes more than attempts to be lured; it works on the mind of people who subconsciously have space and time for it. Magic happens when we show love more to that one special person, don’t just tell her that she’s special, show it. Protect her like your sister, respect her like your mother, love her like your daughter, your baby, after all isn’t that what you call her when you want her.

Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her evidently when she’s gone and if she ever leaves you for good, still wish for her happiness, even if it’s not with you.

Go Further Ahead

Eizu,©Hexavia!

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